For more information on the Red Flag Campaign, go to www.theredflagcampaign.org. If you or a friend needs help, call the confidential National Domestic Violence Hotline that is available for free, 24 hours a day at 1-800-799-SAFE

 

Overview of The Red Flag Campaign at GCC

The Red Flag Campaign is a public awareness campaign designated to address dating violence and promote the prevention of dating violence on college campuses. Through using the “bystander intervention” strategy, the campaign encourages friends and other campus community members to “say something” when they see the warning signs (‘red flags’) for dating violence in a friend’s or other’s relationships.

Red Flag Campaign is a national public awareness campaign that was launched by the Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action Alliance, working to prevent physical, sexual, emotional, and psychological dating violence, providing resources for college students. Typically, many college universities lawns will display red flag around campus, acknowledging the start of Red Flag Campaign. At Gateway Community College, we display these throughout campus by tacking them on bulletin boards or on department windows to have students be notified of the start of Red Flag Campaign.

Gateway Community College is an active participant in the Red Flag Campaign. Throughout the month of October, we will be hosting events that encourage students to participate and learn about the warning signs that could possibly come from relationships. To learn more about the events that we are hosting on campus, please contact the Office of Student Activities at GW-Activities@gatewayct.edu.

 

Events on Campus

October 14 at 1pm - Healthy Relationships and Understanding Unhealthy Relationship Warning Signs with Norah Hartlipp, MS College Advocate and Prevention Coordinator at Women and Families Center (WebEx)

Norah will give a workshop training about healthy relationships, and the warning signs of unhealthy relationships. This training will be one hour over Webex. Please sign up ahead of time to receive the link for the event here: https://forms.office.com/r/FUfrQ7FgAM

October 21 at 1pm - Red Flag Campaign Resources Panel (WebEx)

With Jessca LaComb, LMSW a Victim Service Coordinator at the SACS Program, Barbara Bellucci a Family Violence Victim Advocate Supervisor at the Umbrella Center for Domestic Violence Services, Licella Arboleda, EdD, LPC a Regional Advising Director for the Capital-East Region, and Counselors from Gateway Community College will discuss resources for students for them to know and understand what resources are locally available if they are ever in an unhealthy relationship or notice someone in an unhealthy relationship.

Please sign up ahead of time to receive the link for the event here: https://forms.office.com/r/8cegXzByv1

October 28 at 2pm – Bystander Intervention and Domestic Violence with Kyle Richard (In-Person)

Speaker Kyle Richard is an advocate for violence prevention, a violence survivor, a national speaker, a sports activist, and a former captain of the SUNY Cortland Football team. He will be speaking on October 28th, 2021 at 2pm in S211. All social distancing guidelines will be followed. Sign up is not required.

 

 

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

 

Healthy Relationships

Unhealthy Relationships

Equality: Partner shares decisions and responsibilities. They discuss roles to make sure they’re fair and equal.

Control: One partner makes all the decisions and tells the other what to do, or tells that other person what to wear or who to spend time with.

Honesty: Partners share their dreams, fears, and concerns with each other. They tell each other how they feel and share important information

Dishonesty: One partner lies to keep information from the other. One partner steals from the other.

Physical Safety: Partners feel physically safe in their relationship and respect each others space

Physical Abuse: One Partner uses force to get their way (for example, hitting, slapping, grabbing, shoving)

Respect: Partners treat each other like they want to be treated and accept each other’s opinions, friends, and interests. They listen to each other.

Disrespect: One partner makes fun of the opinions and interests of the other partner. The partner may destroy something that belongs to the other partner.

Comfort: Partners feel safe with each other and respect each other’s differences. They realize when they’re wrong and are not afraid to say “I’m sorry”. Partners can ‘be themselves’ with each other.

Intimidation: One partner tries to control every aspect of the others life. One partner may attempt to keep their partner from friends and family or threaten violence or a breakup.

Sexual Respectfulness: Partners never force sexual activity or insist on doing something the other isn’t comfortable with.

Sexual Abuse: One partner pressures or forces other into sexual activity against their will or without consent.

Independence: Neither partner is dependent upon the other for an identity. Partners maintain friendships outside of the relationship. Either partner has the right to end the relationship.

Dependence: One partners says that they “can’t live without” the other. Partner may threaten to do something drastic if the relationship ends.

Humor: The relationship is enjoyable for both partners. Partners laugh and have fun.

Hostility: One partner may “walk on eggshells” to avoid upsetting the other. Teasing is mean-spirited.

 

Additional Resources

Resources can be found at our Wellness Center webpage: https://www.gatewayct.edu/Counseling-Wellness-Center